Ep #16: Connected Weight Loss

Connected Weight Loss

When you think about your weight loss goal or the number on the scale, why do you want to weigh that number? Whatever your reason is, it’s not a random choice. It’s most likely connected to the thing you most value, but you might not be quite aware of it. If it’s so other people won’t judge you anymore, why? How does it connect?

When it comes to weight loss, or really any goal for that matter, we will never make decisions that line up with our values if we’re not present and connected. We can’t show up for ourselves without being present, and presence in any moment requires connection. If you’re not quite sure of what values are most important to you, don’t worry because I’m sharing a couple of exercises that will help you get tuned in, and from there, you’ll be able to make value-aligned decisions in any moment.

Join me on the podcast this week as I show you why being connected to your body is so crucial to the success of your weight loss journey. I’m sharing some of the biggest obstacles to weight loss success and questions that you can ask yourself to get conscious and make decisions that will get to your goal.

I have absolutely loved reading your reviews and doing the giveaways! Knowing how the podcast is helping you on your weight loss journey brings me so much joy, so I’m going to keep reading and sharing your awesome reviews each week on the podcast. I’ll be sending a special gift to each week’s featured review, so if you haven’t already left one, head over to Apple Podcasts and click here to let me know!

What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

  • Why we can’t show up for ourselves without connection.
  • A set of questions and exercises you can use if you’re unsure of what your values are.
  • Some of the biggest obstacles to weight loss success.
  • Why you need to connect your weight loss goals to your values.
  • Questions you can ask yourself to get conscious and make value-aligned decisions.
  • How to be present and connect in with your body.

 

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This is Weight Loss Success with Natalie Brown, episode 16.

Welcome to Weight Loss Success with Natalie Brown. If you’re a successful woman who is ready to stop struggling with your weight, you’re in the right place. You’ll learn everything you need to know to lose weight for the last time in bitesize pieces. Here’s your host, certified life and weight coach Natalie Brown.

Hello everybody. I had a parenting moment recently. A moment of anger where I had a choice. The two roads diverged in a wood kind of choice, where I could do one thing and have a string of results, and do another thing and have a different string of results.

So without going into too much detail for her sake, I came to a point where I was seconds away from deleting my daughter’s most favorite, most important social media account. I was really mad and out for blood and that seemed like the fastest way to get it.

But I took a beat before pushing the button to check in with myself. I took a minute to think about my values as a mom. I want to be loving, strong, wise, thoughtful, authentic, and I want to be an example. I asked myself some questions. You know how I love me some quality questions.

Does this action line up with those values? Does it get me closer to the mom I want to be? Why do I want to do it? What will happen if I do? What will happen if I don’t? I took a minute to connect to my body. What was I feeling?

I was feeling anger and I was also feeling hurt. And I wanted to hurt back as a kind of defense reaction. I knew that she had years of memories there, pictures and videos of friends and experiences and life, and she was abusing the privilege of using this app for sure, but deleting all of that was not necessary justice.

So I took a minute to just allow my anger and hurt to be there. Then I made the choice to delete the app but not the account. This is how we want to approach our weight loss; with connection. If the goal is disconnected from what matters to us, it will not hold up.

If this current moment is not connected to that value-driven goal, we will not make decisions that line up. If we are not connected to our bodies in the moment, we will not show up. We can’t show up for ourselves or really at all without connection because being present, showing up requires connection.

When you think about your weight loss goal, the number, why do you want to weigh that number? The reason you want that number to show up on the scale is typically because of what you think life will look like when you get there. Maybe it’s so you can be more active with your family, hiking and biking and playing.

Maybe it’s so you can open up some real estate in your brain. Instead of thinking about your body and food and weight loss, you can start focusing your time and energy on a new hobby or business pursuit. Maybe it’s so you can feel confident, so you can put on anything and feel good in it and go anywhere with anyone and be comfortable in your skin and not focused on what they’re thinking about you.

These aren’t random choices. They are connected to the things we most value. We may not be aware of what those values are, but we can figure it out by drilling down here. Why does being able to be physically active with your family matter? How does it connect to your values?

Maybe because you want to be the kind of person who prioritizes health and can participate fully and lovingly in your relationships. You value your health and nurturing your relationships. If you’re unsure of what you value, here are some questions and exercises to get you there.

Fast forward to you at 80 years old. What would your 80-year-old self tell you to stop worrying about? What would she say she wished she did more of? Also, you can think about eavesdropping on your funeral and seeing all the people you love and care about gathered there. What do you hope they say about you? How do they describe you and your life?

Or spend some time with these questions. Deep down, what really matters to me? What’s the truest, most beautiful me I can imagine? That one is from Untamed, which if you haven’t read it, you need to immediately because it’s my favorite. I love it so much right now.

If I were my ideal self, how would I show up for myself in my relationships, in my job, in my free time? What do I want my life to be about? If I wasn’t thinking about others’ opinions and judgments, what would I do differently in my life?

You can also try completing this sentence. I want to be the kind of person who. Once you have an idea of the kind of person you want to be, you can start connecting your weight goal to your values. It takes your goal from I want to lose 50 pounds, period, to I want to lose this weight and get to this goal because.

You may find that your inquiry into this gets you somewhere like I want to lose this weight and get to this goal because I don’t want other people to judge me anymore. If you find that other people are involved in your answer, it’s totally fine. Just keep drilling down until you get to what it means for you.

Ask why and ask so what until you get there. When you ask why don’t you want other people to judge you, maybe you find out it’s because when you’re worried about other people judging you, you don’t show up as your authentic self, and being authentic is something you really value.

Some of the biggest obstacles to weight loss success are in our in the moment decisions to eat things that don’t align with our goal. There’s a lot of, “This won’t matter, and, “Screw it. I don’t even care anymore,” and, “Might as well.” That purposeful disconnection from what does matter and our value-driven goal in the moment never leads us closer to where we want to be.

“Might as well” is rarely followed by, “Just eat some veggies.” We’re never like, “I might as well just eat some veggies.” It’s like, “I might as well eat this whole cake.” Might as well moments never lead to value-aligned decisions. Just doesn’t happen.

Once you’ve connected your goals to your values, it’s important to then connect this moment to your goals. I love this quote by Rollo May. “Human freedom involves our capacity to pause between stimulus and response. And in that pause, to choose the one response toward which we wish to throw our weight.”

There’s power in the pause. That moment before you react. Remember me stopping before I deleted all of my daughter’s memories just to spite her? This pause allows you to get conscious and to make value-aligned decisions. The best tool here is a powerful question.

Does this get me closer to the person I want to be? Does this help me create the life I want? Does this help me in the long run? How will I feel an hour from now, tomorrow, next month about this? Questions have the power to raise your consciousness in the moment so that you can connect to what really matters to you.

It’s much less likely that you will pull through the drive-thru for fries and a shake that aren’t on your plan if you pause and ask, “Will these fries get me closer to the person I want to be? Does this shake help me create the life I want? Does this decision support my values of health and integrity with myself?”

Another obstacle to weight loss success is our disconnection from the big goal because it seems so far away from where we are now. That’s why I love to connect the dots from your big goal back to this moment in time. Set your goal and work backwards from there through each month, each week, and each day, all the way to the moment where it matters.

If you have 50 pounds to lose and you want to lose it in one year, how much weight will you have to lose on average each month, each week, and each day to get to your goal? What do you need to do each day, each week, each month to lose it?

We get closer to our goal a moment at a time. A small decision at a time. So when we say it doesn’t matter, it’s not that big of a deal, it is. It is always a big deal. The decision you make in this moment is a big deal because it’s part of your journey to the goal. It’s all part of becoming the kind of person you want to become. It’s a big deal because you are a big deal.

The final part of this connection in the moment of decision is the connection to our bodies, to what particular foods feel like in our bodies, to what hunger and satiety feel like in our bodies, to what our feelings feel like in our bodies.

Much of our desire to eat comes from a desire to numb and to escape emotion, to disconnect from feeling. So being present in our bodies is a willingness to reconnect. One of the ways you can do this is to set aside time to have a mindful meal.

I’ve included a link in the show notes to the exercise and the hunger scale worksheet if you want to try this out. The exercise is digitally fillable so you don’t even have to print it because I’m fancy like that. So fun.

So your goal here is to stay present and to raise your awareness if your body throughout the meal. You’re going to take your time and assess your body before the meal, at several points during the meal, right after the meal, and then an hour after the meal.

So before you begin, ask yourself these questions. How does my body feel right now? What’s my energy level? Check in with different parts of your body. Your stomach, your head, your mouth. What emotion am I experiencing? Where am I at on the hunger scale? How hungry am I right now?

And then as you eat, set a timer for every minute or two and pause and ask, how does this particular food feel in my body? Check in with your mouth and your throat and your stomach. Ask again, what emotion am I experiencing? Where am I at on the hunger scale?

Do the same thing right after you finish. And then revisit the questions an hour later as well. Sometimes the effect of food on our bodies takes a little while to show up so you want to just reflect and think about how you’re physically feeling after some time has passed as well.

Can you imagine if you start living more present in your body, in the moment, and connected to a value-based goal, how different your decisions and your weight loss journey will be? Connection is the key to success here, my friends. So try some of these things out. Connect to the process in a new way and see what happens.

Okay everyone, today is the day. It’s AirPod day. I’m so excited about this. Okay, drum roll in your heads everybody. The winner of a pair of brand new AirPod Pros is Kiki. I love that name. So cute. The title of her review is, “Wednesdays are my favorite.”

This is what she says. “Wednesday is the day that Natalie’s new episodes drop. I’ve listened to all 10 so far.” Now she has 16 to listen to. So fun. “And she’s shared many new thoughts. Her insight helps me in life and in my weight loss journey. I’m so thankful. Here’s to many more Wednesdays.”

Amen sister. Here’s to many, many more. Thank you, Kiki, so much for listening and for your review. I’ll keep showing up here every Wednesday for you and all of you, and I look forward to it with all of the love in my heart.

Okay, so I absolutely love reading your reviews. This has been so much fun. Every time I pull one of those little papers out of the bag and I go searching for the title, I get to read some new reviews, and I love it so much I want to keep it going.

Knowing how the podcast is helping you on your weight loss journeys and in your lives brings me so much joy. So I’d love to keep spreading that joy. I’m going to keep sharing your awesome reviews each week on the podcast and so if you haven’t left me a review, go do it. Go rate and review and subscribe so you don’t ever miss a Wednesday. Just like Kiki. Every Wednesday, we’ll be here.

And I’ll be sending a special gift to each week’s featured review. So fun. I love gifting my favorite things to my favorite people, and you’re my favorite people. I will see you all soon.

Thanks for listening to this week’s episode of Weight Loss Success with Natalie Brown. If you want to learn more about how to lose weight for the last time, come on over to itbeginswithathought.com. We’ll see you here next week.

 

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Meet Natalie

I spent over 2 decades battling my weight and hating my body, before I found a solution that worked FOR GOOD. I lost 50 pounds by changing not just what I eat, but WHY. Now I help other women like me get to the root of the issue and find their own realistic, permanent weight loss success. Change is possible and you can do it. I can help you.

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