We’re on the cusp of a new year, which for many of us means we’re planning and preparing ahead. When it comes to your weight loss goals, you’re probably already thinking about the choices and decisions you want to make, but I like to think of this process as hooking my future self up, and I’m sharing why.
If you’re anything like me, doing things out of love, fun, and generosity for other people comes much easier and more frequently than doing it for myself. And sure, there are a million ways past you has hooked your current self up, or current you is hooking your future self up, but today, I’m inviting you to hook your 2022 self up in ways you might have never considered.
Make your future self’s life simpler and easier, and her success inevitable as I offer some small gifts you could hook your future self up with right now. I’m sharing some of the ways I do in my own life, and questions to consider as you let yourself be guided by creativity and love for that future version of you.
This is Weight Loss Success with Natalie Brown, episode 94.
Welcome to Weight Loss Success with Natalie Brown. If you’re a successful woman who is ready to stop struggling with your weight, you’re in the right place. You’ll learn everything you need to know to lose weight for the last time in bitesize pieces. Here’s your host, certified life and weight coach Natalie Brown.
Hello everyone, so I am pretty much always on the lookout in my life for what I want to share on the podcast. Sometimes I find inspiration in books I read, shows I watch, things I listen to, but oftentimes I think about what my clients are struggling with and what would help them with that particular struggle, and I go in search of answers and solutions. Sometimes I share with you work I am doing myself that I think might be helpful.
As inspiration strikes, in whatever form, I typically jot down some quick notes in my phone. I open up a google doc maybe and get an outline laid down. Most of the time, I have three-to-five-episode ideas in the queue. So, when it comes time to get it done and record it and send it off to my team. I open up my notes or the Google Doc, and I work off that idea, and I flush it out fully.
Because of the holidays and the vacations I have coming up in the next little bit, I started thinking a little farther in advance about what episodes I would create and put out, and I made a specific plan, labeling each episode with its episode’s number. So, this week when I opened up the next episode, I was pleasantly surprised to find that it was halfway done. I had already written out and completed most of it, and I just had to feel in some blanks and add a little here and there, and it was finished and ready to record.
I totally forgotten that the previous week I had taken a little extra time after completing that week’s episode to power through half of the next week’s episode. It was such a delightful treat to only have to spend half of the time on it that I planned. I was like, yes, thank you self of last week for hooking me up. She made my life easier and my process a little bit shorter. This particular podcast episode right now that you are listening to wasn’t planned in as one of the next six.
But they can wait. I want to talk about how many delightful surprises you could create for yourself if you start thinking about how to hook your future self up. Now, to clarify, we are not talking about hooking up in the intimate way…although if you want to hook your future self up with some of that, that can also be a delightful treat. But in this case, I am talking about the help her out, give her something for her benefit, kind of definition of hook her up.
It’s about making choices and taking actions now that will benefit her in the future. This could be years in the future, weeks in the future, even moments in the future. This may be something you already do for your future self in some areas of your life. Maybe you put money away every month for retirement or for a vacation you are planning. Maybe you do the laundry, and you put it away, so you have clean clothes to wear. Maybe you always get gas in your car when you’re at a quarter of a tank, so future, you aren’t ever stuck having to run to the gas station when she’s running behind one morning.
Maybe you pick up an extra bottle of shampoo when you’re at the store, so you have a backup. Maybe you keep your caffeine consumption relegated to the morning, so you know you’ll be able to get to sleep at night. Maybe you delegate parts of a project at work, so you don’t have to work over the weekend. I could list a million different ways that past you has hooked up current you, or that current you is hooking up future you.
Just take a minute and think about some examples of this in your life outside of food, weight, or health. How did past you hook up current you? How is current you hooking up future you? We usually use different words to describe it, planning ahead, thinking ahead, preparing for the future, all noble and useful pursuits. But to me, hooking my future self up feels way more fun and selfless. It’s like I’m thinking about how I can make my friends’ lives easier or how I can help out a loved one in need.
It ignites a spark of love and fun and generosity and consideration that planning ahead or preparing for the future just don’t for me. And the more fun and selfless it feels, the more like I am to do it. So interesting because for me, performing acts of kindness, service, or giving gifts is one of my favorite ways to love my people. And just people in general.
I think it’s so fun to give a generous tip to a helpful server or service provider, to hold the door open for a mom who’s juggling a toddler and a stroller, to let someone go ahead of me at the grocery store with their handful of items rather than them waiting for me to purchase my weeks’ worth of household groceries, or maybe it’s even to make my child’s favorite meal without them expecting it, or find the perfect gift for my best friend for her birthday.
Or sit on the couch with my husband and tickle his back and his head. That’s his favorite thing ever; it’s so small. But he loves it. I love helping people out. I love giving them something for their benefit. I delight in it. I find joy in it. Doing that for myself is a little more infrequent. I mean, I do things like brush and floss, which are technically hooking my future self up with no cavities, right? Healthy teeth and gums and jawbones.
But what I want to focus on here for our purposes are really the things that we can do that are harder things in the moment that require a little bit of sacrifice, a little bit of intentionality, a little bit of love. I picked one specific way to focus on here, but that means, of course, that this is not a comprehensive list. As you listen, be thinking of how you could expand this list in your own life in ways that would serve you best.
One of the small ways that we can hook our future selves up is by making decisions ahead of time. So, that when the moment comes, she doesn’t have to think about what to do. It’s already done. You could hook your future self of tomorrow up by planning lunch for tomorrow. And like one of my clients does, packing it the night before so that it’s ready to go. I don’t know many people who have leisurely weekday mornings when there’s endless of extra amounts of time that they don’t know what to do with. It just doesn’t happen that often.
How awesome would it be to wake up to the delightful treat that packing your lunch is off your plate? You don’t have to come up with a lunch plan in the midst of the morning chaos. It requires something from you the night before or even maybe on your weekly grocery run. But it’s a small gift you can give yourself to reduce the decision fatigue of the day. The lunch decisions have already been made. That is actually one of my favorite things that I do to hook myself up, planning simple lunch options for the week.
So, I can grab them at the store and not have to think about what I am going to eat for lunch every day. It’s a decision that feels so hard to me after a day of coaching and teaching and making decisions in my business. Lunch used to be a really sticky point for me. I work from home, so I don’t need to pack my lunch, but I love that I can come in from my workday and rest my brain, not having to make any more decisions while I nourish my body because I don’t have to be creative. I don’t have to think of ideas in the moment.
I love hooking my future self up like this. You can do this same thing, hook your future self up by making decisions ahead of time. When it comes to any healthy aligned habits, you’re trying to create to support your weight loss, whether it’s to deciding that you will do some thought work/journaling for five minutes in the morning and just having your notebook and your pens on your nightstand to remind you—or deciding ahead of time that before you answer an urge for something that isn’t planned or aligned that you will always pause for five minutes and check-in with yourself and your body.
Anytime we are intentional about preparing and deciding before the challenging moment is upon us, we are hooking our future selves up and doing what we can to make her life easier and simpler and her success inevitable. You can hook your future self of next weekend up by planning in some intentional rest or relaxation or fun during your week.
This is something that we often neglect. Thinking we will just grind our way to the weekend. That there’s no time for rest, relaxation, or fun. Then we are shocked and disappointed on Sunday night as we recognize that we spent all weekend trying to pack in rest, relaxation, and fun using food, alcohol, and Netflix. And we just disregarded our body and our health goals in the process.
Listen, I am all for a pajama-only weekend, where we soak in all the rest and relaxation that we want. But there is something different about doing that with intention and care and an eye on our goals vs. the desperate disconnection that it usually comes from. Look at your week and weekend as a whole experience. One informing and supporting the other. Rather than two separate modes. How could you hook your weekend self up by planning in some time to recharge, be still, move, laugh, walk, sit, whatever is restful, relaxing, and fun for you during the week.
It may mean putting in some intentional space and not working for a solid 12 hours at a time. It may mean spreading out a project over a week instead of trying to pull an all-nighter and work for 24 hours straight. It doesn’t have to mean that you switch to part-time or that you take 3-hour afternoons siestas. Even just a 10-minute lie-down meditation in your Office with your door closed. Or an episode of the Office on your lunch break. I know maybe taking a break from work watch people working may not be your jam. Insert any episode of anything light and fun that you like to watch. Or a quick stop, maybe for a 15-minute walk to clear your head before switching into home mode.
That can be just the thing that hooks your future weekend self up enough that she doesn’t need to totally zone out and eat chips until the bag is gone. A little love during the week goes a long way. Hook your future self of 2022 up with some dedication to more than just focus on food and the scale. You are making your inner world a priority now will give her the gift of understanding and empowerment that will enhance the process of losing weight or improving her physical health and just make it a more lasting one.
Go back and listen to the podcast on food rules which is episode 18. Sit down and do the work I recommend there to start to understand and unpack all of the rules and judgments and absolutes that you have picked up along the way that are making your food life feel so complicated and out of control. Listen to episode 39 about changing the conversation and do the work to become aware of how you view and talk about yourself. And how it’s impacting you. Listen to and absorb all of the amazingness that is your miracle body in episode 91 and do the exercises to start generating gratitude and love for your body.
Above all else, I think this is the most incredible way to hook your future self up. Because the compounding impacts that happen when we shift the focus from the outside to the inside of our bodies will be felt full force by her in the future and will be the thing that allows her to make the changes she wants with love and ease, you can hook your future self up by learning things from other places besides the podcasts too, of course. Read More Than A Body by Lexi and Lindsey Kite and start raising your awareness of how objectification has affected you and how to start seeing your body as an instrument and not an ornament.
Look at your life and ask how can I hook my future self up? And let yourself be guided by creativity and fun for all the ways you can love, serve, and take care of her by what you do and how you show up right now. Okay, everybody, make sure you’re on the waiting list for my brand-new program coming on Valentine’s Day 2022.
We’re going to go all-in on hooking our future selves up as we work to understand the past to embrace this present moment and to envision her, our amazing future self, in our amazing future brimming with possibility. Head to itbeginswithathought.com/waitlist to join. So, you can have first access to applications when they open in January. I personally cannot wait. Have an amazing week. I’ll see you soon.
Thanks for listening to this week’s episode of Weight Loss Success with Natalie Brown. If you want to learn more about how to lose weight for the last time, come on over to itbeginswithathought.com. We’ll see you here next week.