Join me on this episode as I urge you to let go of the idea that there is one solution for everyone. Don’t be disheartened when I say not everything will work, and instead, be excited by the journey of discovery ahead because I guarantee there is a unique prescription that will work just for you.
This is Weight Loss Success with Natalie Brown, episode 57.
Welcome to Weight Loss Success with Natalie Brown. If you’re a successful woman who is ready to stop struggling with your weight, you’re in the right place. You’ll learn everything you need to know to lose weight for the last time in bitesize pieces. Here’s your host, Master Certified coach, Natalie Brown.
Hey everyone. I recently had someone ask the question, “What do you wish someone in your industry would admit already?” And I sat down to answer it and this podcast is the result. So it’s a little bit of a soapbox, but I stand by it. Here’s what I wish someone in my industry would admit already.
Have you ever noticed that there are infinite conflicting ideas in the world of weight loss? I myself have 30 different books sitting on my shelves right now telling my 30 different things, offering 30 different solutions that promise to be the only one I need.
And all of them are telling a truth. All of them have evidence to show you that their truth is an important and effective one that you should adopt as your own. And if you do, you will finally have the body you want. And they are all right.
But how, you may be asking, can they all be right if they are conflicting? Well, because they are all right for some. Their philosophy has worked wonders in their life and in the lives of some of their patient/client/friend/relative. But there is not a solution that has worked the same wonders for everyone.
I, like so many of you, have done a lot of research and tried a lot of things. Many, many, many different programs and ways of eating and philosophies and tactics and strategies and meal plans, and I’ve found some things that work for me and my body.
But the overwhelming lesson I have taken away is there is no one solution that works for everyone forever. Everyone with a solution will argue with me on this point about their solution, but I can guarantee you that for every plan, program, philosophy, and even pill out there that worked for some or even a lot of people, there are people who it didn’t work for.
There are people who weren’t able to be successful at getting to their health goals or losing weight or changing their diet or reducing their cholesterol or getting off their blood pressure medication by doing that thing. I can also guarantee you most, if not all of the people who weren’t successful are making it mean something is wrong with them.
That they are broken, that this solution that was supposed to work for everyone didn’t work for them and therefore, they are the problem. That’s because we’ve all been sold the same lie that our bodies are and should be the same. That if they aren’t, something is wrong with us.
Look around at the messages we are pounded with constantly. The images of size and beauty and age ideals that we see everywhere. Who do we value? Who do we listen to? Who do we pay the most? When our heroes and idols are criticized, what is it most often for?
I support people losing weight when it’s driven by love for them and their bodies. I do not support the idea that everyone should lose weight or should lose a certain amount of weight, to be a certain number, to meet a certain ideal or expectation.
I also don’t support the idea that there is one best or most effective way to lose weight if you choose to do so. I love science and data and understanding how things work and seeing proof of it with studies and evidence.
But here’s the thing with nutrition science and the human body; there are far too many factors to control for to be able to do a truly scientifically sound 100% certain study that becomes a prescription for everyone to follow forever.
Just think about nutrition science over the last 30 years. Think of how many things have changed and been proven completely wrong with new science and new studies. There was a time, remember, when we all subscribed to the “truth” that fat was making us fat. We were all encouraged to cut out and stay away from fat in order to lose weight.
We were also told that grains should be the bulk of our diet by the food pyramid of the time. Sugar wasn’t even really a discussion and in fact, I ate plenty of fat-free candy thinking I was taking really good care of myself. It baffled me to watch my weight going up when I was eating all the bread and crackers and pasta I was told to base my diet on and was focusing on choosing fat-free candy and fruit snacks instead of chocolate.
Now we have some different information and look how things have changed. But it’s not as simple as just what to eat and what not to eat, which is what gets most people into the most trouble when it comes to their health goals.
Some people can hear that they should eat more protein and cut out carbs and they’re like, done. They don’t look back. And then there’s the rest of us. We really like carbs. They are the best part of our day, if not our lives. And people tell us they’re bad and we should give them up and we’re like, but I don’t want to because I really like them.
And then we eat our cookies in secret, and we pretend to love our kale salad at the lunch meeting and go to the drive-through on the way home and eat it in the car so no one knows. And we despise ourselves for it because why can’t we just like kale and stop eating fries like the rest of the world?
A kale only superfood, sugar and carb-free plan is never going to work if you don’t want to give up sugar and carbs. An intermittent fasting plan is never going to work if you love breakfast and want to keep eating it. An eating every two hours plan is never going to work if you’re only hungry twice a day.
Of course I believe you can figure out how to like veggies if you don’t and how to cut back on sugar cravings. 100%. But if cutting out sugar right now creates panic and drives you to eat even more, how is that useful? If counting your macros makes you feel like you want to pull your hair out and leads to you eating all the things on the weekend, how is that helpful?
If the program recommends you eat only organic grass-fed everything, and make everything from scratch and that isn’t in your budget, how are you ever going to make any progress? We have to learn to let go and listen. We have to let go of the idea that there is one answer, one solution. And that what worked for someone will then most definitely work for you.
We have to let go of the idea that if one thing doesn’t work, nothing will. We have to let go of the idea that our bodies should look and behave like someone else’s. We have to let go of the idea that someone outside of us has the answer for inside of us.
We have to let go of rules and expectations that are driving us in the opposite direction of the one we want to go. We have to let go of the belief that our body is our value. We have to let go of the belief that we are broken.
We have to let go of the idea that we’ll never figure this out just because we haven’t yet. We have to listen to ourselves. We have to listen to our bodies. We have to listen to our wisdom. We have to listen to what works for us and what doesn’t. We have to be willing to try new things in new ways. We have to be willing to have something we try not work and keep going anyway.
We have to be willing for it to feel hard and have that be okay. We have to be willing to let kindness for ourselves usurp any prescription of what we should or shouldn’t do. There is an answer for you. There is so much out there for you to try. You finding that answer is inevitable if you learn to listen and keep going.
What if instead of you looking for a solution in one place, you listened for your own customized answer in a lot of different places? What if you tried to look for answers that felt good to you? Answers that sounded doable, practical, realistic for current you, and then you tried them out. Like really gave it a good solid try with your heart.
What if you stopped beating yourself up for this or that thing not working and instead got really curious and asked why didn’t it work? What didn’t work about it for me right now? Did any part of it work? Can I take that away and use it and keep looking and listening?
What if you focused on loving you more than losing? What if you went all in on love for you? What might that look like? What would that feel like? What would you do if you were all in on loving you?
I’ve given you lots of tools and ideas and philosophies and tips and tricks and suggestions and challenges on the podcast. Some of them work for many of you and not for others, some work for a small majority, some work for most, but nothing I or anyone teaches you will be 100% your answer because your answer has to come from you.
There is one thing above all others that is my only “it works for everyone” solution and that is love. When you love you, every decision is the best one, even if it doesn’t work out how you want it to. Because it was the decision you made, and you have your own back no matter what. That is the soapbox I will stand on and I will stay on.
Figure out how to love you and go all in on that. It will change your life. Okay, rant over everyone. I love you; I hope you can learn how to love you too. I hope that I can help you. I’ll see you soon.
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