Seeing Possibility In Weight Loss

Seeing Possibility In Weight Loss

Seeing Possibility In Weight LossI have been writing, recording, and sharing my podcast for one whole year. That still completely blows my mind every time I think or say it. There was a time when I didn’t believe I had enough ideas, wisdom, or discipline to have a weekly podcast. 

I had so many beliefs about the bounds of my creativity, the shortcomings of my experience, and the lack of my expertise.

There were many times during the past year that I wondered if I had it in me to keep going to reach my one-year goal. Yet, here we are. Every week, as I think of what I want to share with you, inspiration whispers and a new episode is born. 

But it’s only possible because I leave the channel open within my brain. My former thoughts about what I was capable of were like giant steel doors slammed shut in my mind. 

It’s impossible to see possibility if we close the doors to it with doubt, judgment, and shame.

When I set out on this journey, I decided I would lean into belief instead. I would choose to believe that I am full of ideas and that every week those ideas will help people. 

I choose to believe that l always figure out what needs to be said and that every week, with you in mind, I will put out an episode packed full of bite-sized wisdom and actionable advice.


Change your lens

I recently got glasses. My eyes decided, in the last six months, that they were done doing it on their own and so I got them some help.

I have astigmatism and am far-sighted, so I can see fairly well, but my eyes just have to work really hard to make sure that I do. They’re getting tired as I get older. 

It’s so interesting because of my far-sightedness, I can actually see things in the distance more clearly without my glasses, but my glasses really help me to be able to see things up close more clearly and without straining.

My husband is the opposite. He’s near-sighted so his glasses make the distant stuff more clear, but he can actually see up close things better without his glasses. He’ll often put them up on his head if he has to read something up close.

This got me thinking the lenses we see the world and ourselves through can change the view completely.

We have the option to try on and wear many different lenses on our journey through weight and the lenses we choose will determine how successfully we navigate the journey and how we feel along the way.


Your unique prescription

Our lenses are our own unique prescription. If you have glasses, you know that the way they determine your prescription is a very specific, deliberate process. 

You look through a series of lenses and the doctor makes small adjustments one at a time, again and again. Some adjustments make the world look more blurry, some a little clearer, until you finally get to a place where the world looks right again.

The specifications of your prescription are unique to you. Comparing someone else’s prescription to yours or trying to use their lenses won’t be super helpful to you. 

Often in weight loss, we compare our journey to other people’s. We look at what they’re doing or even what they’re believing, and we try that, thinking if it works for them, why not for me?

However, this journey is going to be your own unique prescription

What foods to eat, how much, when to eat them, and how you regard yourself, talk to yourself, treat yourself, think about yourself, is up to YOU! 

Borrowing someone else’s beliefs or thoughts won’t work like magic for you. Weight loss is a process of ongoing problem solving. Your prescription may change over time. 


Change your lens and change your life

Lens of doubt

Remember when I mentioned the “lens of doubt” I was looking through at the beginning of my podcast journey? I had so many doubts about what it would entail, what it would require of me, and if I would be able to rise to the challenge.

Through those “lenses of doubt,” all I could see was all the ways it would go wrong. I couldn’t see a path forward. I could see lots of evidence of how the doubts were true.

Those lenses picked up every forgotten task or unanswered email I was responsible for as evidence of how I wasn’t disciplined enough or consistent enough. They magnified how hard it was to come up with content for a Facebook Live or how I couldn’t seem to find the right words to express my message.

What do your doubt lenses show you? What do they pick up and magnify?

As I realized what those “doubt lenses” created for me I decided to change the lens, to try on a different pair: a pair of “belief lenses.”

It started with questions like these:

  • What if something else were true? 
  • What if I was as disciplined as I needed to be? 
  • What if I could come up with plenty of ideas one week at a time? 
  • What if I knew enough right now to help someone?
  • What if I didn’t have to be an expert but instead just needed to share my experience?

Over time, those “belief lenses” started to become more and more clear. Maybe it was possible.

What might a pair of “belief lenses” show you? What might they make clear? 


“Not enough” lenses

Some of our other go-to lenses are the “not enough lenses.”

We put on the “not enough lenses” and all we can focus on is what we lack. There are so many different styles and colors of these “not enough lenses” to choose from.

Believing you’re not enough can sound like: I’m not strong enough, disciplined enough, good enough, worthy enough, lovable enough, thin enough. 

One thing is the same on all of them though the lenses are so scratched it’s like looking through a pinhole. It’s hard to see where you are, where you’re going, or where you’ve been. So we just end up standing still.

What styles and colors of “not enough lenses” are you trying on or wearing? 

What would the world look like through some “abundant lenses” instead? These lenses are so wide-angled they allow you to see things you didn’t even know were there.


Gap lenses

Sometimes we have our “gap lenses” on. These glasses only allow us to see what’s missing. They only focus on how far we have to go and what we should or shouldn’t have done. They only see our faults, our mistakes, our unmet expectations.

These lenses are dark and heavy, and they force our heads down. They keep out the light and they emphasize the shadows.

If these are your lenses right now, try on some “gains lenses” instead. When we are looking through the gains, instead of the gaps, we are able to see how far we’ve come instead of how far we have to go.

We can look at what we have done and the progress we have made. We can focus on what is working rather than only seeing what is not. We can appreciate what we are, what we have accomplished, what we have learned, and how we’ve grown.


Magic body lenses

Some of the most damaging lenses we’ve been forced to wear are the lenses that have us seeing our bodies as objects. Objects to be viewed, objects that only have value based on the way they appear to ourselves and to others.

These lenses focus on “before and afters,” comparisons to others, and small, meaningless details of our bodies that say nothing about the bigger picture of who we are. These lenses damage our vision the longer we keep them on.

Your body is a miracle made of trillions of cells, complex systems, organs, tissues, hormones, nerves, muscles, and senses. It is so much more than meets the eye.

It works 24 hours a day to try and keep you alive. It allows you to be in the world, to move, see, hear, feel, taste, touch, and live. It’s not just a picture to be viewed. 

It’s a dynamic, intricate, amazing, unique instrument to be utilized and regarded with reverence and care.

Imagine the other lenses you might try on that might see your body for the magic it is. We’ll call them “magic body lenses.” How would putting on these lenses change your life?


Give your brain time to adjust to your new lenses

A lot of times when we first try on a pair of new lenses, our eyes and brain freak out a bit before they learn to adjust to this new way of seeing.

Don’t be surprised if trying on some different lenses doesn’t automatically feel comfortable. 

It takes some time for your brain to adjust to seeing and believing things in a new way. But this doesn’t mean that these new lenses are wrong for you. It just takes some time for everything to settle and for you to start seeing the world in this new way.

You may not be seeing your world through the lenses that you wish you were right now, and that’s okay. Your lenses are unique to you. 

I just want you to remember, changing lenses is always an option. What else could you try on?

If you want to learn more from me about how to lose weight for the last time, watch my free video about how to lose the first five pounds — and keep going.

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I spent over 2 decades battling my weight and hating my body, before I found a solution that worked FOR GOOD. I lost 50 pounds by changing not just what I eat, but WHY. Now I help other women like me get to the root of the issue and find their own realistic, permanent weight loss success. Change is possible and you can do it. I can help you.

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