I’ve been an avid podcast listener for years. Podcasts have honestly helped me create the life I have today, so to become a podcaster myself is incredibly rewarding and exciting.
I want to start things off with a bit of background about me, my journey with weight loss, and what this podcast is going to be.
I also want to dive right in and teach you something new about how you see yourself and your weight. It’s called your Weight Identity, and it will shed some light on how your thoughts about your body are affecting the way you feel.
This is going to be an incredible experience, and I’m so glad that you are here.
This is Weight Loss Success with Natalie Brown, Episode one.
Welcome to Weight Loss Success with Natalie Brown. If you’re a successful woman who is ready to stop struggling with your weight, you’re in the right place. You’ll learn everything you need to know to lose weight for the last time in bitesize pieces. Here’s your host, certified life and weight coach Natalie Brown.
Hey, everybody. I am deliriously happy to be here with you on my very own podcast. The woman I am, sitting here talking to you today, is in large part really a result of me listening to some of my very favorite life-changing podcasts. And so, to go from my former avid podcaster-listener identity to this new podcaster identity, it’s a really exciting shift for me.
And, not coincidentally, identity shifting when it comes to your weight loss is what I want to explore with you today. For most of us, when we decide we want to lose weight, we immediately focus on the number we want to see on the scale at the end of the journey, how much we want or need to lose.
You have a pretty solid idea of that number for you right now, right? Some of us kind of hyper-focus on it. It haunts our dreams; the 50 pounds, the 110 pounds, 75 pounds, whatever it is.
It’s fun to think about that destination, isn’t it? Especially at the beginning of a program when we are feeling motivated and super-hopeful. We fantasize about the clothes we will wear and how confident we’ll feel and how easy life will be when we get there. It’s fun because it gives us a chance to escape how we currently feel and see ourselves for a minute.
But here’s the thing; when you get ready to go somewhere you haven’t been and you open up Google Maps, you can’t just put in your destination. You have to know your current location in order to know the most effective way to get there.
If we ignore our current weight identity in order to just focus on the fun of the goal, we’ll take our current identity into the future with us and end up sabotaging our success and gaining the weight back. And I am not in the temporary weight loss game.
We are not about that life anymore; the losing and the gaining and the losing. We want permanent solutions, not quick fixes. That’s not why we’re here.
So, really quickly though, before we begin, what I want for this podcast and my future podcasts is to open up your mind to seeing weight loss in a totally different way. I want you to learn, and I also want you to apply what you learn.
It feels so good to learn new things. We feel inspired and motivated when we hear a message that really resonates with us. That’s part of what I love so much about my favorite podcasts.
So, the learning part, super important and fun. But the changes to our lives come as we apply the things that we learn. That’s why I’m going to offer you questions and different ways to try on what you learn here, so you can take it into your life and start seeing the awesome power that you have within you already.
So, a little bit about me. I was a pretty happy confident little girl. I loved my blonde hair and my eyes that were the exact same hazel color as my mom’s and my skin that got tan in the summer.
I loved to do cartwheels and handstands and spin and spin and spin and then lay on my back on the grass and watch the clouds turn in circles above me. Did you ever do that, like, get dizzy on purpose? Oh, my goodness, now I get dizzy without even trying.
I took ballet when I was little and I rode my bike and I practiced my splits every day so that I could be flexible. I didn’t ever think twice about putting on a swimsuit and running through the sprinklers in my front yard. Remember how that was a think we used to do? And I lived on a fairly busy street, so there were plenty of witnesses, and I just didn’t even think twice about it. I couldn’t care less.
My body provided hours of fun. It got me where I needed to go, and it held my baby sister. And then, I woke up one morning when I was 10 years old, and I felt like my body was not mine. All of a sudden, I was 5’3, I had hips, and I needed a bra.
Okay, in reality, obviously, it was a more gradual change than overnight. But for me, it felt like I left fourth-grade as a little girl and I walked into fifth-grade as a woman. And my girlfriends at the time did not come with me on this womanly journey.
They were still little girls with knobby knees, swapping their junior-sized clothes and, like, jumping on the trampoline with nothing jiggling. It was the first time in my life that I felt like there was something wrong with my body. And I definitely needed to figure out how to fix it.
At that moment in time, I had an identity shift. I went from thinking I was a regular girl to thinking I was a big girl. I wasn’t necessarily overweight at the time; just bigger than most of the other girls around me. But in my brain, I had become a big girl.
I felt totally out of control and being bigger, and the change, felt totally out of my control. It had just kind of happened for me. And seeing myself that way changed how I felt and what I did. I went from confident to self-conscious; from totally care-free to obsessive about fixing my big body.
For the next 20 years, I would go through bouts of restricting my food, eating according to extreme rules that I either heard or made up and trying to exercise the weight away, which just caused me to feel terrible and overeat when I had the chance, and ultimately gain much more weight than I lost. I became a big girl.
So, what is your current weight identity? Do you label yourself as big-boned? Do you refer to yourself as a food addict maybe? Do you joke that you are the fat friend? And how does that identity affect the choices you make when it comes to food and your weight? I want you to think about how you would describe yourself in regard to your weight, in other words your weight identity, in one sentence.
You probably believe this sentence about you is just a fact; that based on the number you see on the scale, the sentence is just an observation of what is true. But truth is relative.
I define myself as a big girl based on the fact that I was taller than my friends and I couldn’t fit into their clothes anymore. But by many definitions, I was a small girl at the time. I’m only 5’3, which is not big or tall by most standards. And at the time, I was fairly average weight.
The number you currently see on the scale is not the number you want to see. You make that number mean all sorts of things. Maybe you make it mean that you are weak, that you can’t resist the urge to eat three bowls of ice cream every night, even though you are trying to lose weight and you know ice cream doesn’t help.
Maybe you make it mean that you are out of control. Maybe you make it mean that, no matter what you do, you will never figure this out. The sentence you believe about you based on that number is your weight identity.
Now, I want you to repeat that sentence in your mind and I want you to think about how you feel when you think that about you. What emotion do you feel when you think that sentence about you? My guess is the feeling you feel isn’t proud or motivated or strong.
There are probably some pain feelings and some shame feelings that come up when you identify yourself with the sentence. And one thing I know about shame is that it likes to hide in the pantry and eat chocolate chips straight out of the bag, which just reinforces your weight identity that you are out of control, weak, a food addict, whatever, and keeps you stuck in the cycle you are in.
But here’s something I want you to consider; that number that you wish you didn’t see is someone else’s goal weight. There is someone – or probably many someone’s in the world right now – that would be overjoyed to wake up and see the number you see on their scale. It’s the number they are working towards, the number they are dreaming about, their goal.
This is how we know that the story you are telling about your number is not a fact. Not everyone on Earth would agree with your story about it. and if it’s not a fact, that means you have the power to change it. So, what do we do now that we know our current weight identity?
One thing you’ll learn from me as we go forward on this podcast is that I want you to question everything; everything you’ve been taught about weight loss, everything you believe about your size, everything society has told you that you should be. All of it. We’re going to question all of it.
So, let’s question this sentence that you have in your mind that’s making up your weight identity. I want you to ask yourself, is it helpful? Do you want to keep it? Is it getting you closer to the person you want to be? Why do you identify this way? What’s the story or circumstance this identity came from? What are some of the benefits to identifying this way?
There’s some benefit that your brain thinks, “This is helpful.” Right? Like, maybe it’s protecting you from something. Think about how this could be benefiting you to identify in this way. And what are the drawbacks to identifying this way? It’s probably a little easier to see those. But try for both.
On the next episode, we’re going to talk about the destination; shifting your identity from current you to future you. So, don’t miss it. And one last awesome bit of news for you, to celebrate the launch of my very own podcast, I am giving away two things I personally cannot live without; $100 Amazon gift cards, and a brand-new pair of AirPod Pros.
If you don’t have your own yet, you are going to fall in love. The AirPod Pros, the new ones, are noise-canceling. And they’re so much more comfortable than the original version. For real, I am in love with them. I use them every single day.
I am not sponsored by Apple or Amazon though. If we’re being honest, I’m such a loyalist to both that I really should be. But I really just want to share some of the things that I love with some lucky listeners who subscribe and rate and review the podcast.
It doesn’t have to be a five-star review, although I really hope you love the show. But mostly, I just really want your honest feedback so I can create an awesome show that provides tons of value for you.
Visit itbeginswithathought.com/podcastlaunch to learn more about the contest and how to enter yourself. I will be announcing the winners on the show in an upcoming episode. See you soon.
Thanks for listening to this week’s episode of Weight Loss Success with Natalie Brown. If you want to learn more about how to lose weight for the last time, come on over to itbeginswithathought.com. We’ll see you here next week.